What Is Forgiveness And How To Forgive?

Forgiveness is the ultimate form of love. You are simply giving a gift of love to yourself first and then to someone who has hurt you in the past. It frees you from the pain and resentment and moves you to a state of joy and abundance.

Pragito Dove, master trainer and meditation expert of Discover Meditation, explains that, “Forgiveness is realizing that there is nothing to forgive.” She explains her story of how she came to this realization and how she was able to move her relationship to love and compassion with her perpetrator.

Sometimes we can really feel hurt by the people who are very close to us: our parents, siblings, close friends, co-workers, or family members. It makes us angry and sad, and we feel victimized and vulnerable. It is all in our past though. Some people choose to live on carrying the sad and debilitating feelings of their past throughout their whole lives, but many of us choose to get rid of this heavy, depressing load and fill its place with a happy one. Carrying sad memories about is like transporting a heavy load in the back of our mind. However, this load has also shaped our character and made us stronger and more resilient to fight back against obstacles in our lives. They can be good lessons for our future, but we need to get rid of this load for a happier future. We might not be able to forget our experiences, but we can definitely forgive.

7 Treasures offers this guide on how to forgive now and benefit our health, feelings, knowledge, faith, family, career and wealth.

Tell yourself that this person did not know any better. Tell yourself that everything happened inadvertently.
Accept the situation as a past occurrence that you can’t change.
Write down your side of the story in a notebook and keep it for your records. This way, it is out of your head and on to paper.
Believe that justice will be served one day. Leave it to the higher powers so that you can clear your spirit of negative thoughts such as hate or revenge.
Allow yourself some time for all the wounds to heal. In a few months or years most of it will be gone from your memories. Time will heal.
Think of the situation as very small compared to many bigger issues that happen in the world. Issues such as the 2004 Indian Oceans Tsunami that killed more than two hundred thousand people is such one such event in the history books that will put your problem into perspective. Your problem is not as big as you think.
Look at yourself in the mirror and appreciate your breath and the power that is within you to create new and happy memories for your future. You deserve the best.