Serving others is a significant part of everyone’s life. I find satisfaction in serving others, and I feel loved and honored to do things for other people. However, the big lesson here is that I also should know my capacity for serving. For instance, if I have two hours available for helping a friend, I should not commit myself to help all day. The choice and terms of how I serve should be my decision, not the other person’s. To me, the end result should be satisfaction and pleasure not stress, guilt and resentment.

Kristy Rogers, founder of KristyRogersConnects.com, offers some alternative ways to say “No” politely to avoid breaking our backs and/or breaking our relationships. We are much more accessible now, and for that reason alone we are expected to be available and respond back to all requests. We are expected to be fast and on time. Occasionally, we overload ourselves with more chores that we can handle; and then we get to a breaking point. At this point, we either isolate ourselves from the people who we are serving, or quit altogether. Both of these actions can be avoided only if we had known our limited serving capacity and communicated sincerely with the other person. Kristy Rogers has been there before. As she tells her story, she came out of it and created a better solution for starting the relationship right from the start. Kristy connects people on a personal level in a professional setting where they get to know something about the other person. We are on a journey to self-development and growth. To avoid costly mistakes, lets learn from each other and be each others' support. Help us by sharing your insights here. Please comment below:

1. How do you deal with a situation and say “No” without hurting someone’s feelings?
2. How do you relate to Kristy’s story?

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