Overcome Your Anxiety & Live a Worry-Free Life Forever!

Is there Too Much on your plate?  

I wasn't surprised when I read YPulse January 2022 research who found Young Females Are Burnt Out. YPulse is a subscription based research company on Gen Z and Millennials. They reported that Coronavirus had more negative impact on young females.

The survey reported that 85% of females say they have felt burnt out compared to 79% of males. It's alarming to see the response to which of the following are they currently feeling. 

• - Lack of energy - 56% 
• - Mentally exhausted - 56%
• - Emotionally drained - 49%
• - Overwhelmed with the amount of stuff to do at home - 40%
• - Detached from personal relationships - 33%
• - Unable to cope with the demands of life - 31%
• - Overwhelmed with the amount of stuff they need to do at work - 28%
• - Pessimistic about my work - 20%
• - Alienated from coworkers or workplace activities - 12% 

This is alarming, but the bigger problem is that young females are not optimistic about the future.  Both Gen Z and Millennial females used being anxious, nervous, cautious and worried about the coming year. 

My daughter, being a millennial female, is a proof about the state of mind for this generation. She is going through all the similar emotions of the surveyed females. I understand her pain. 

Yes, you do have too much on your plate!

Does Worry Keep You up At Night? 

Not only worry kept me awake at night, but it also limited my ability to focus during the day.

I gained more than 20 pounds in one year because of chronic stress and worry. It came from all over.... Worry for my kids being away from me; worry of making it. I had worry of loneliness, of getting sick, being vulnerable and dying alone. It started when I moved away from my comfortable life in California to Maui, Hawaii. The island is a paradise on earth. But, my imaginary fears were consuming my energy, focus and vitality.

I felt vulnerable, helpless, stuck. My shoulders would jump up and become stiff. I'd eat to keep my mind busy or sleep during the day to catch up on my sleep.

I was not alone. Here are the 2022 statistics reported by Sleep Foundation (www.sleepfoundation.org):

- Between 10 - 30% of adults struggle with chronic insomnia.

- Women have a lifetime risk of insomnia that is as much as 40% higher than that of men.

- Insufficient sleep has an estimated economic impact of over $411 B each year in the United States alone. 

Do you get Panic Attacks?  

• You feel hot
• Your heart races
• Your breath becomes shallow
• You sweat
• Your skin gets pale
• Your stomach growls,  
• Your senses lock up 

I know what it feels like having a panic attack. My mother suffered from panic attacks that she swore was the end of her life. She would go to the ER only to come back home relieved of her physical pains and a big confusion. She didn't know why it was happening to her. The last time, the doctor discharged her with a guarantee that she will not die of a heart attack any time soon. That was more than two decades ago. Now, she laughs about her past panicky behavior.

Every time she had an episode, she'd panic and call each one of my sisters to come to her rescue. We all were about an hour or so away from my parents. Sometimes, the hospital would keep her a day or two for observation. At the end, they'd find nothing wrong with her physical body. 

Through each one of those episodes, she put us through a very scary and difficult situation. We all had leave our jobs or homes to rush to the hospital. But, I know that if she understood the source of her pain, suffering and fears, she would not do that to us. 

Do you feel like Hiding?

Well, it was the natural thing to do after I made a fool of myself in front of 300 people on the stage. 

Yes. Anxiety or my nerves got the best part of me on the stage. I was presenting the activities of my non-profit organization for the first time. I don't know how I completed the talk, but then afterwards I wanted to disappear. That's what I did. After gaining my conscious back into my body, I left the venue and drove off. I felt embarrassed, ineffective and foolish. My presentation, organization & my achievements were all great. But, I don't know why my heart was beating so fast and my voice started shaking. I sounded as if I was crying while I was speaking on the stage. 

I was sad. It was nothing short of a reputation suicide. Fear of public speaking is real. I was naïve & ill prepared to speak in front of a big audience.

This intense experience became the first challenge in my life that I had to overcome.